The question about where babies come from usually strikes a bit of fear in even an experienced parent’s heart. The good news is that there are so many books to help you walk through this conversation, that you need not worry about it. But first, I’ll start with some basic tips for this conversation.
- Consider this to be a series of conversations and not a one-time thing. There is so much information, that you’ll want to give it in bite-sized chunks. This also helps you have time to research and gather your thoughts between conversations.
- Be sure you’re answering the question that is being asked. Sometimes “Where did I come from?” actually means – was I born in this hospital or that one? You only add more confusion if you give a completely unexpected answer. A simple, “Tell me more about your question.” can usually help you figure out what the basic question really is being asked.
- Go slowly and ensure that you haven’t lost them in the conversation. Ask them to repeat back what they heard you say.
- Check in frequently for questions. Sometimes you get going on a roll and they are afraid to interrupt you or don’t want to appear to be not understanding. It’s potentially a complex topic.
- If you have one, bring your partner in, if everyone is willing. Presenting a united front can help prevent misunderstandings.
- Be light-hearted where possible. You want to create an environment where you’re seen as open and accessible for future conversations.
- Remember how babies get out and how babies got in are two very different questions.
- Use the correct names for body parts is recommended. It prevents confusion and gives children a way to talk about their bodies without being ashamed. This post may contain affiliate links. Read more about that here.
|This book is a really great start. It uses all the correct words for the body, but in a very simplistic way. It doesn’t go into too much detail, but it does also acknowledge that not every baby is conceived the same way or born into the world the same way. It’s a very positive book. This is geared towards ages 3-7.|
|If you’re looking for something that has a bit more medical feel to it but is still very accessible to younger kids, this is a great book. Sex is not the focus of this book, but it is included. (If you want to see exactly what it says, some of the reviews at Amazon include those photos. It is critiqued by some for being vague.) Ages 4-8 are the target for this book.|
|If your focus is going to be on birth, you can’t go wrong with this title from the Nonnie Series. Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski does an excellent job, through story, of talking about birth in various forms. As a parent, childbirth educator, and sexuality expert, her tone is spot on. The simple images are descriptive. This book is suggested for grades 3-8, so a bit older than the previous two books.|